Many will have an opinion on what is and what isn’t appropriate after the death of a loved one, but the reality is different for everyone.

It probably made a picturesque scene. A snowy mountain in Japan. The dark-blue sky contrasting sharply with the white powdery layer under a tourist’s skis as she stopped and raised her pale face to the dying rays of the sun. And, in truth, it was scenic. But it was also complicated…